Can Too Much Sex Be Bad for Christian Couples
In a word, no. However, not enough sex or sex that is good for only one person can be bad. The Bible teaches us that God wants married couples to have not just mediocre or even good sex, but great sex! And He wants it to be incredibly satisfying and fulfilling for not just one, but both partners. Imagine that: the God of the universe wants us to enjoy sex and each other in the process of being intimate physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Yet, many Christians believe that sex is bad. Why, then, practically speaking, is good sex or little to no sex in a marriage bad?
First, I would like to address what can great sex in a marriage do for both partners: Great sex, or a healthy sexual relationship can work wonders for a marriage. It can elevate both partners’ self esteem, increase his or her confidence in themselves and each other, and build a bond that goes far beyond just emotional intimacy into spiritual ecstasy. Sometimes sexual intimacy with each other can motivate personal and spiritual growth and even an enhanced relationship with God.
On the other hand, the lack of sex or unsatisfying sex can be harmful. Here’s how:
1) The lack of sex can divide and separate a couple, which can cause temptation. The Bible says that the only reason we should withhold sex from each other is due to a time of prayer. If your spouse uses sex as a weapon, to get what he or she wants, or uses it to control you, this creates division, separation, anger and resentment. A healthy sexual relationship, where sex is not just good but great will cause a couple to be unified, and of a common purpose and mind in their relationship. God’s design is that a healthy sexual relationship will protect the marriage and keep partners from straying since both husband and wife are satisfied, fulfilled, and getting their needs met right where they are.
2) The lack of sex can cause emotional dysfunction, which can lead to unhealthy emotions. An unhealthy sexual relationship can cause significant emotional dysfunction between spouses. If your husband or wife believes that you’re withholding sex, this belief — whether it is accurate or not — can create bitterness, resentment and anger in a marriage. One partner may feel constantly rejected or even abandoned by his or her spouse after repeated sexual advances that are usually turned down.
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